Letting Go; When Holding on leaves you broken
Remember my post on letting go? This is more of a continuation than it is a new topic. There are many phases of life and just as trees have seasons so do we. There is a time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to celebrate, a time to mourn, a time to love and a time to let go.
Photographer: Ithan of Ahurd Pictures
What am I talking about? I am talking about Dead Relationships. What is a Dead relationship exactly? This is a relationship that is not bearing any fruit. One that is one sided, one that is destined for doom. (You are basically dating yourself)
I have come across many relationships where a person is in it alone. When asked the affected partner says, “The person I fell in love with changed.” Truth is, where there is growth you will find change; this is one of the things that make us human. We learn we grow and we change. This is not the problem it’s the outcome that is. Some people change for the better while others… Well,you know.
Relationships need a whole lot of work; mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. They take a lot of effort.
REPEAT: “A lot of effort.”
When is it safe to say we are done? Is it when you have cried your eyes dry? How about the cold nights alone? How many times must they cheat for you to realise it is time to go? Or do you like the feeling that you get when you realise the person you are with is merely a stranger? Maybe it’s the hope that you get when you hear, “This time I will change. I promise.” How much heartache should your heart endure for you to know that it has had enough?
Have you ever hit your baby toe on the edge of the bed? How bad did it hurt? Guess what, if your body struggles to endure that pain how about your heart? How do you think your heart copes? Have you stopped to think how this affects you as a whole?
Your heart is one of the most precious gifts that you are blessed with. Your heart can take in much more than you can imagine but all you have to do is decide what you will let in. What you let in defines who you will be.
Like many of you, I have been at the place where I had to decide to call it quits and the truth is it is hard. You may be thinking, “We’ve dated for so long.” This safety net will not fix the broken heart or mend your bleeding wounds. If the relationship is not a working progress then you know what to do.
I think I have said a whole lot today, so I shall depart with this quote:
“It is better to have a whole heart than half a bleeding heart.” ~ Emz